Why doesn’t my child follow directions?

Often it’s not defiance—it’s overload.

What to do, step by step:

1. Give one clear instruction.
   “Please put your shoes on.”
   
2. Wait 5 seconds before repeating.
   Give processing time.
   
3. Make it visual.
   Use charts or point to the task.
   
4. Stay calm if ignored.
   Repeat once, then help start.
   
5. Praise completion.
   “You did it right away—thank you!”