Why does my child get upset over losing?

Losing triggers shame. The goal isn’t to fix it—it’s to normalize it.

What to do, step by step:

1. Validate the frustration.
   “You wanted to win—it’s okay to be upset.”
   
2. Model good sportsmanship.
   “I lost too, but I had fun.”
   
3. Play cooperative games.
   Focus on teamwork, not victory.
   
4. Teach coping tools.
   “Take a deep breath and try again.”
   
5. Praise emotional control.
   “You stayed calm even when you lost—that’s brave.”