How can I stop my child from whining?

Whining isn’t manipulation—it’s disconnection. Your child is seeking comfort, not control.

What to do, step by step:

1. Stay calm.
   Don’t match their tone—your calmness sets the tone.
   
2. Connect before correcting.
   Kneel down, make eye contact, and say, “Tell me with your calm voice.”
   
3. Give words for needs.
   “You want a snack and you’re tired. Let’s talk about it.”
4. Praise their calm voice.
   “Thank you for asking so nicely.”